When I was back at the North Sidney campground, a lady came across the grass straight to me and addressed me, asking where I was from. She said she heard me before, recognized the accent and wanted to verify her identification. We immediately started talking in Hebrew. It was nice to have company, and easy to talk to an Israeli. She was pleasant and friendly. We shared notes, as females so comfortably do…
This was her second marriage, and the story is serendipitious. An American guy she met on a Kibbutz years before her first marriage located her 20 years later after getting divorced himself. Apparently he wrote to the Kibbutz. She wasn’t living there anymore, but they had her number…
She was happy to meet me and speak Hebrew. Her husband did not mind our lively conversation, and as guys tend to do, minded his own business when his woman was chatting with another female. Now they were both retired, and had been travelling around the country for a full year already, camping at KOAs, rain or shine. And I thought I was unusual…
Receiving all the necessary information about the KOA membership and re-calculating the cost vs. my potential future use, I came to the same conclusion that it made no economic sense for me at the moment.
Since her retirement, she dedicated to drawing elaborate ornamental graphics she would create around a core doodle. The doodles were started by herself or by others. She asked me to draw a few lines representing how I see myself. I drew a rough sketch of wings. Within two days she developed this into an elaborate intricate masterpiece…
Their marriage, despite the unusual romantic story and exotic lifestyle, was very traditional in other ways. She cooked, he did all the driving and planning, as well as the tent setups and takedowns. It was nice to see them together. He clearly admired her, as he told me when I asked him off the record how they got along in that intense 24/7. He said they got along fantastically and smiled.
In secret she divulged to me that notwithstanding the fact that he directed and orchestrated the entire trip, the bottom line was he did everything she wanted. She was really the one in control. I guess that pattern works and there are different ways to do things. I, personally, would have a hard time letting somebody else make all the decisions for me. Also, the arrangement seemed to be a bit unfair to him, knowing full well how much work it took to run a trip all on one’s own. That said, who am I to judge other people’s lifestyles that clearly work for them?
In the evening we all sat in the common room with a few groups of American elderlies. They talked a lot about themselves and some about Israel. One told us a long and complicated story about Golda Meir and some encounter he had with her decades ago. I was listening with half ear because I was trying to simultaneously read Jim’s letter and answer it. I had some salad with sardines and they were eating spaghetti.
Tomorrow I’ll take a cruise to see puffins.
Unbelievable! Just as I decided to leave the tent “unlocked”, it started raining again.
“Getting a Sense of Place”
16.8. 16